Word for 2019 – Why you should take more photos.

So it’s February 1st. In true procrastinator fashion, I am going to start my new year, now. I feel like I needed January to figure out what I wanted this year to be about. Believe it or not, I feel like I’m clearer now about my goals and priorities. 

In January, a lot of creatives were discussing and asking each other what their word of 2019 was going to be. A lot of people said stuff like ‘intentional’, ‘patient’, ‘kind’, ‘etc.’ 

I like those, I want to be those. My word for 2018 was ‘intentional’ and I’m still deciding if I was or not. More importantly, I didn’t find a word for this year, at least until now. 

My word: remember.

It’s not an adjective, it’s a verb. I don’t want to be anything more this year, I want to just remember more. I want to remember my life in the in-betweens. 

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I have always had a very big challenge with change. I do not cope well with. I will cling to things that I have out-grown in order to preserve the present circumstances; to avoid change. But as I look back I remember every chapter of my life with fondness. I look back on every version of myself with empathy, love, and care.

I love to freeze moments. I don’t mean this in the corny photography way. I mean it in the mindful way. I like to stop and think about a quote from one of my favorite Authors, Kurt Vonnegut:

And I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, 'If this isn't nice, I don't know what is." to myself, ‘this is something I’m going to remember’. 

If I can leave a year with even a handful of memories like that, I am satisfied. 

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Our life is about relationships. I don’t remember the cool cafes or the name of the streets I walked through in other countries. I remember the little things: the conversations that took place, the way I felt standing and watching the horizon. It’s the emotions.

So this year, I want my photos to reflect that. 

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I want my photos to trigger memories: personally and professionally. I want to take more photos of the people in my life and the things I love about them. I want to write more, record more and take more in. 

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When I was a kid my mom recorded everything. She always took pictures. I can remember more because of her gift to us. The best gift she will ever give us is our memories.

So how do you do this?

Resist getting jaded.  Appreciate time and present. Give gifts that matter. Take more photos. Get more photos taken of real moments. Do in-home sessions. Invite me to the park to take pictures of your kids playing. You be present and let me work. It’s seriously my pleasure. 

I know you don’t know what to do with your hands when we’re at a session. Neither do I. So don’t ask me! (JK, we’ll figure it out.) The first thing we need to do is stop focusing on the posing. It will come once we warm up. Don’t worry about it. I just want you to relax, and pretend I’m not there. My sessions are longer because of this. Because it’s not a session, it’s a moment. You can’t pack those into minutes. 

That’s what I do, and I think that’s the most important thing. 

So remember to remember. You have 11 months left in 2019. 

Victoria Boustani